Despite their age, Ok Cupid has been around long enough to perfect its process of bringing people together. My friend and I were sharing a hotel room at a weeklong business conference.In the past year, I've dated two different men that I met on Tinder. Our first date was in a left-wing cooperative bookstore and cafe.I drank coffee, he drank green tea, and we talked for hours about politics and change.Similar to Tinder, Pure only shows you people who are nearby, and are up for a date right now.But unlike Tinder’s long string of damning evidence, your conversational history and racy photos are automatically deleted within an hour. Business Insider reports that an estimated 50 million people use Tinder every month, with over one billion swipes per day. Of the billion swipes happening across the dating platform, there are only 12 million matches—just over one percent, making the rate of success pretty damn low.
I didn't and we dated for a few more months but parted ways once we determined we wanted different things from a relationship. We matched on Tinder and he immediately asked me to dinner.Although my ex-husband and I co-parent our now 12-year old son, my son spends 75% of his time at my home.With no relatives nearby to watch my son, my dating life is restricted to Monday nights and alternate weekends.Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a "hook-up" app for romance. After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends.