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I'd never wear anything new, as it just adds too much extra pressure. What you do is a very personal matter, but it's always good to know what is normal. Neither of you will be body proud once you get past 50. Some gay friends of mine nearly broke up as one of them had a little curious glance at an old dating site and a friend of his partner saw that he had been active on it and spilled the beans. Falling in love is so totally different from the first time round, you probably won't trust it at all.
I would choose something appropriate for the setting. DO NOT go for Dutch courage, and have a few drinks beforehand. Focus on the other person, on listening and finding out all about them, rather than impressing them about yourself. One date interviewed me as though for the job of wife/housekeeper. Men aren't too worried about the pubic topiary, but most prefer a little less than the full Gwyneth. Know that the man will be so terrified that he won't perform that he won't even notice your cellulite, big bum or whatever else it is you are worried about. Unless you're Madonna, and let's face it, most of us aren't. As a relationship develops, you will be on an emotional rollercoaster, with teenage-type angst.
It really doesn't matter whether or not you're an experienced participant in the bondage lifestyle.
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