I’ve spent most of my life being called “intimidating” by people who don’t really know me. If I’m hanging back and not saying much, it’s because I don’t feel informed enough to do so.
My friends think that’s crazy, but I just point to my resting bitch face. But woe unto you once I decide I know what I’m talking about.
As an INTJ, there are a few things, I think you should know about us: I’m actually a very emotional person, as long as I’m completely and totally comfortable with the person I’m with. You might see me annoyed or even angry, but tears are going to be rare. When I’m with people I don’t fully trust, it’s a biting laughter – harsh, cynical, sarcastic. In my last job (shout out to my Realtor peeps), I, at one point, juggled four separate positions while we were short-staffed. Nope, I created a system for everything I did, and the system was sacrosanct.This is because the INTJ is a far more long-range and analytical thinker than any other type.The INTJ’s predictions aren’t tied to personal experience or limited to what has “always happened before.” Instead, the INTJ takes into account new data, changes, and shifts in trends to predict future outcomes.It can come across as arrogant, but it’s just a sureness in ourselves.(I actually work really hard to make sure I don’t sound like a know-it-all because I know it’s a pain in the ass for everyone else.) When an INTJ steps up to speak, we’ve got data and analysis (and probably several procedures and to-do lists) to back us up.