Compulsions in OCD generally fall into one of four categories: As noted above, compulsions in ROCD and other Pure O variants of OCD often occur entirely in the mind of the sufferer, and are usually less overt than hand washing or door checking.
That said, there are often some outwardly apparent compulsions that involve checking, as well as countless avoidant, reassurance-seeking and mental compulsions.
But this term is a misnomer, as people suffering with Pure O exhibit numerous, albeit less obvious, compulsions.
And while these compulsions are less noticeable by others, they still take a huge toll on sufferers. As with all forms of OCD, the compulsions done in ROCD are done in an effort to reduce the individual’s anxiety related to their unwanted obsessional thoughts.
Obsessions in OCD are defined as repetitive thoughts, ideas, mental images, or impulses that an individual experiences as intrusive, unwanted, and/or inappropriate.
As with other forms of OCD, the obsessions in ROCD focus on issues of doubt and an intense discomfort with uncertainty.
Relationship OCD (ROCD) is a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in which the sufferer experiences intrusive, unwanted and distressing thoughts about the strength, quality, and “true nature” of their love for their partner.
Obsessions in ROCD include a preoccupation with a partner’s appropriateness as a mate, overall level of attractiveness, sexual desirability, or long-term compatibility, and often arise in otherwise entirely healthy relationships.
And in the case of ROCD, these obsessions can, and often do, lead to the loss of an otherwise great relationship with a loving partner.Likewise, we all know people who seem completely wrong for each other at first glance, but somehow end up happily married for decades.Ultimately, there is no way to know with 100% certainty whether a relationship is “right” or “wrong”, just as we cannot guarantee (however morbidly) that we will even wake up tomorrow morning, or that our children will be safe even when we are not there to supervise them.We are whisked off on a white horse to a dream world free of pain, suffering, anxiety, and as it turns out….When we are so regularly fed a diet of fantasy, it is no wonder that our anxiety surrounding relationships, commitment, and marriage can skyrocket.