Human sexuality is incredibly, amazingly diverse, including because humans come in all shapes and sizes.You're the designer of your sex life, including whatever limits you need as you decide whether you're ready or not.Depending on someone's impairment and level of disability, people may find the use of adaptive tools like wedges, ramps, and more super helpful — and we'll be talking about those.People with sensory disabilities or paralysis may need to do some experimenting to figure out what looks and feels right for them.Sometimes people use this line because they're hoping to convince you they're your only hope — like they're doing you some huge favor by wanting to date you, so you should take them up on it while you've got the chance.Those people should sit in the corner and think about their life choices, because what they're doing is not okay and may even be predatory. Being disabled means you face disablism — discrimination on the basis of your disability status (also called "ableism").Under that framework, people say "person with disabilities" to put the focus on an individual, not their impairments.
Fortunately, you have an entire website all about these subjects at your very fingertips.
That's not true — lots of disabled people actually have super mundane sex lives, while others are total kinksters, some of whom are even part of the fetish community, but often their fetishes have nothing to do with disability!
Consensual, joyful sexuality isn't wrong or weird or gross or freaky, even if your body doesn't always do what you want it to do or your brain likes to fight you and even if other people want to desexualize you because of your impairment.
Sometimes adaptations that make sex more accessible, fun, and empowering work to your advantage — like being more conscious about communication and taking advantage of props to get comfortable before you get down for sexytimes. I personally subscribe to the social model of disability, which says that while some people have impairments (like, say, limb loss or paralysis), it is society that chooses to disable them — for example, by not including ramps for people to get around on.
"How come you say disabled people, and not 'people with disabilities'? Under the social model, disability is an identity category and something to even be proud of, for some of us, so I say "disabled people" just like I say "gay people" or "Chinese people." The medical model, on the other hand, posits that disability represents something wrong with a person — something bad that they would want to get rid of, but since they can't, society will accommodate them.