At age 17 she fell in love with her best friend and her perfect little formulated world came crashing down. She was homeschooled her whole life, raised in a cultic church and with the principles taught by Bill Gothard and IBLP.To top things off, when Avan was asked if he had a crush… There are many times that I don’t realize just how much strange teaching I’ve had to undo in my life. She now lives in gorgeous Montana with her husband and three kids, loving life, writing about spiritual abuse and grace, and leading worship for church, retreats, and special events. I leave you with the words of a very wise man:“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Instead, we will teach our children to love God with all that they have, all that they are; and to love and respect others as they love themselves.
Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness.
The only person who would ever freak out about this is me. The other night, I stuck my tongue out at a guy friend who was teasing me, and his wife cracked up laughing. I will be in control of my future.” Faith says “I will risk everything.
Purity and integrity in relationships can exist without unnaturally freaking out about it. Formula says, “I will follow a God that I’ve put neatly in a box, and He will give me the desired results.” Faith says, “I will follow You even when I can’t see where I’m going, even when the world is collapsing around me.” Formula says, “I will not risk.
Two weeks after the publication of this article, Darcy wrote some follow-up thoughts. EDITOR NOTE: If you are a reader who is unfamiliar with the specific courtship teachings of Bill Gothard and IBLP (the perspective from which Darcy writes), you can find more articles by clicking here.
It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.