You’ll go about your merry way getting on with your life instead of feeling down and desperate to prove yourself wrong in a wrong relationship. I’m going to hazard a guess that you’re a relatively decent person – you’re not alone, other people have loved, lost, made mistakes, and not found a loving relationship…yet.
If you believe the decent ones are gone, you’re saying ‘Sod it. It’s a cop out that you’re using to legitimise the fact that you’re not prepared to get uncomfortable. I trust myself and I’m OK with acting in my own best interests even if it may hurt a little.
Positive beliefs are fundamental to your mentality, attitude, and breaking any previous negative relationship patterns.
This is because what you believe is what you predict will happen, is how you will act accordingly, is how you’ll end up catering to a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dating is a discovery phase where you get the opportunity to find out more about them and determine whether you want to move forward.
You need to go in with a reasonable level of trust and increase it as you get signals of trustworthiness or roll it back when you don’t.
The world doesn’t need flip flapping around in the dating pool trying to get the fringe benefits of a relationship without the relationship and without the intimacy.
Unavailable people often have a lot of ‘loose ends’ in their lives and some of these exes boomerang in and out like bad pennies.
While agreeing with the above doesn’t mean ‘Shazam!
When we don’t trust others it’s because we don’t trust ourselves.
If you like and love yourself, you’ll trust you instead of treating you like an enemy and putting others on pedestals with blind love and trust.
If you’re ruled by fear, it will be a dramatic, insecure interaction and you may end up sabotaging a potential relationship or being with someone that reflects your fears.
Know the difference between internal and external factors that are triggering your fears.