I would not be with any of these men if I had been living in NY.
Each relationship ended because I wanted them to end.
What no one tells you when you move back home with your degree and fabulousity in tow, is that married men don't all come as the big belly sugar daddy Nollywood Ogas.
They don't tell you that some of the married men you'll meet will be middle-aged, attractive, "good", hardworking, intelligent dudes that would be perfect for you if they were not married. Did all the kind of things that boyfriends and girlfriends do. I mean I didn't get the this is my girl friend introduction (HA!
Mate-choice copying is an extension of our psychological tendency to take other opinions into consideration when we make a decision, and this is not the first study to identify mate-choice copying in women.
Research on this topic proposes that females tend to change the likelihood of choosing a potential mate based on the decision of other females and what other females agree to be desirable.
For the study, the team of international researchers from the U. The women were asked to rate 20 images of men’s faces and hands using a scale of 0-100 for “not at all attractive” to “very attractive.” Photographs were of male volunteers from St. The women also rated a piece of abstract art to serve as a control.
The researchers suggest this trend may be due to a psychological process known as “mate-copying.” However, lead study researcher Catherine Cross, a researcher in the school of psychology and neuroscience at St.
Andrews University, told that although the findings may show evidence of our tendency to follow a trend, this specific finding does not describe how the women would act, only how they might think.
"We asked people to rate the attractiveness of images they saw on a screen," Cross told .
In the majority of cases the married boos had wives in foreign countries.(Who would actually date a married man whose wife lived in the same country code? Like I said, I always thought of myself as a self respecting young lady and so even in dating a married man I thought there should be a thieves code.)This is how they were: One married man said he was separated or soon to be separated and considering a divorce (it was true). Unlike what everyone assumes when you date a married man is that the relationships are always transactional. I was there when they would call their wives, or their wives would call.
Two others lived on the continent while the wives lived in the diaspora. The relationships have all since ended, and with one of them I'm still shaking my head like how did I ever even date this man? Sometimes I would leave the room and give them privacy and other times they would excuse themselves always returning to say sorry.