They tend to feel inadequate in their giving and unable to accept help for their own needs.
THE MASCOT – Often a younger child who uses humor or other distracting behavior, such as being exceptional clumsy or always in trouble, to take the focus of the family away from the problems of the family dysfunction.
Most of us have experienced some dysfunction in our family of origin.
The reprint begins with: “Some of the personality types are:” FAMILY HERO – An achiever, usually (but not always) the oldest child.
THE DOORMAT – The abused child who survives by lying down and letting others walk all over him/her, rather than risk an unpleasant or dangerous confrontation.
This child is very understanding of the need someone else may have to injure him/her, but cannot identify his/her feelings about the abuse in the past or present.
They adopt whatever behavior will allow them to stay invisible within the family, at work, at school or in a relationship.
THE RESCUER – Similar to the Family Hero, -but without the visible success.THE LOST CHILD – Often a younger (or the youngest) child, this personality type has learned to stay out of the way, not make his/her wants known and to expect nothing.They avoid feeling by denying that they have feelings.An Adult Child may have several of the above characteristics at one time, or may play a different role within the family at different times or depending on who they are responding to. As ACA becomes a safe place for you, you will find the freedom to express all the hurts and fears you have kept inside and to free yourself from the shame and blame that are carryovers from the past.You will become an adult who is imprisoned no longer by childhood reactions.