Like many women, I stayed married because I thought it was as good as it gets.When I looked at my friends’ marriages, most of them weren’t so different from mine.Unfortunately, many of the men I date don’t understand how that works. Now, I’m an independent homeowner, bill payer, business owner, single mom, and CEO of my life.When I left my husband, I didn’t realize how much responsibility I’d be taking on. I want to crawl under a rock and make all my responsibilities disappear.
When my husband “disappeared” in his mourning, I became more independent, soldiering on to nurture our 3-year-old daughter and newborn son.
I want a knight in shining armor to come and whisk me away to an exotic island, sipping margaritas as we watch the sunset.
But not for long, because I don’t give up or give in easily. I enjoy the vibrant life I’ve created, but it’s not yet complete.
I thought it was crucial to give the kids a two-parent household, no matter what.
With therapy and increased self-awareness, I realized that I had been giving up too much of myself in this marriage. There may not be Mecca out there on the other side of marriage, but I had to leave. Divorce wasn’t easy, but here I am, eight years later, living an incredibly rewarding life I’m proud to have created.