Today, courting candles serve more as a decorative piece.
With their beautiful and intricate wrought iron coiled design, these collectibles of yesteryear are easily identifiable and coveted.
It is the wrought iron coiled look that makes a courting candle an identifiable and unique decorative piece.
Although the significance of courting candles has waned over the years, their stylish look still endures.
And from 1740 to 1820, English literature was flooded with novels by women about how confusing courtship was, and how to do it properly.
But other societies in Europe have enjoyed the rituals, twisting themselves into knots for the fun of it.
Rich or poor, the courting candle was used by fathers from all economic backgrounds.
It taught daughters to respect their parents' judgment.
Folding hand fans were used to send signals as various as "Do not betray our secret" (covering your left ear with an open fan), "You are cruel" (opening and shutting the fan), and "Do you love me? The diversity of signals was astonishing, and the sound of all the women in a ballroom rapidly rotating and shutting fans must have been amazing.If things went well, suitors competed by offering bridewealth (cash money) — but, if the bride's father was a particularly sadistic sort, the suitors had to compete for her instead.Not in ways that meant anything about being a loving husband, obviously: tests ranged from chariot racing to singing and grueling interviews with the bride's family.There was a time when a courting candle represented an important part of the household and family.But with time and changing cultures, its popularity faded.