In the end, having a breakup conversation is a small courtesy you can do to encourage open communication in relationships, which ultimately would dissuade people from ghosting at all.
In the last 30 years or so, we’ve seen a dramatic shift in how society views single, unmarried parents.
"At this point, you’ve likely developed emotional intimacy and feel a sense of connection, so a phone call or in-person conversation is warranted," Burns says.
During the talk, you can address the fact that you didn't sense a spark, or even explain that you felt like you had "mismatched core values," Burns says.
Single fathers are often demonized as deadbeat dads or heralded for their involvement in their children’s lives.
Whatever the perception, the majority of single mothers and single fathers want to date, find loving happiness with a great partner and build a solid companionship that makes them and their children happiest.
"Ghosting is damaging to someone’s self-esteem and wastes emotional energy that could be better off invested back in the dating market," Burns says.
On the other hand, what if the person you're seeing doesn't actually express interest in meeting up with you again? Even if you don't think the person would care that you're ghosting, or you think they may also be ghosting, it's better to be the bigger person and close the loop, because you shouldn't assume that you know how other people feel.
While stigma and perceptions vary by cultural group, and changes in acceptance have occurred at different paces, it’s now commonly accepted that there are unmarried people who have children seeking love and companionship.
Single mothers, particularly in Black communities, have been viewed both as strong heroines who are the backbones of their families as well as vicious destroyers of the traditional family structure.
Of course he doesn’t dismiss that women with no kids won’t understand; just that dating a woman with children provides an additional level of commonality, one in which you are both similarly situated—this being an optimal position for establishing a relationship.
Anthony believes in being honest in the beginning about his status as a single father of three by two different moms.