Child-focused mediators will help develop divorce plans that support kids, but if you’re particularly worried about them or if they have special needs, talk to an expert.
Again, doing this early, so you’re informed about the options before moving forward, can help decrease anxiety in an already stressful time.
Your mother is telling you to stick it out for the sake of the kids.
Your best friend with the hot new fling thinks you should have ended things years ago.
An initial consultation with a family lawyer can give you a realistic assessment of your specific circumstances, such as what you’ll likely be able to negotiate with your spouse, and what assets you’ll be in a position to keep.Some people are reluctant to reach out to a lawyer, notes Felstiner, because they’re worried it feels too much like pulling the trigger on their marriage.“But getting information isn’t the same as acting on it,” she says.And if they can’t, you may draw comfort from the fact that at least you tried.“There’s a certain peace of mind that comes from having explored counselling,” says Caroline Felstiner, a Toronto-based divorce mediator.