O’Reilly says he found that a nicer way to meet after some mishaps in the online dating world. (Courtesy of Brendan O’Reilly/Amy Hawkins)Yet most are convinced that online dating is a better bet for meeting Mr. Right than the bar scene ever was.“How else do you meet someone? But decades later, they reconnected after he glimpsed her picture on a friend’s Facebook page.
They were school chums in the fourth grade in Ruidoso, but Brendan O’Reilly and Amy Hawkins found each other again when O’Reilly saw Hawkins’ photo on a friend’s Facebook page. ”O’Reilly, 39, met Amy Hawkins, his lovely bride of four years, for the first time in fourth grade in their hometown of Ruidoso.
Thomas, who has a doctorate from Stanford University, says of his research about online dating that, “I suppose one could game a particular website’s algorithms to make one’s profile appear higher in others’ search lists.
That book is written by former Albuquerque resident Elizabeth Cohen, who’s tried online dating herself and is now a university writing professor in New York.“Online dating is both the best and worst thing to happen to relationship forging,” she says in an email interview. We have to decode the pictures and words that people post to advertise themselves. Worst because it is a perfect petri dish for fraud and deception to bloom.“We have excellent chances these days – better than ever – for meeting the man or woman of our dreams, but we have to learn a new language to do so. But as for the effectiveness of those algorithms in general in producing better matches than unaided ad-browsing, I and other social scientists are skeptical.”Other books explore the increasingly popular way to meet in literature, as in “The Hypothetical Girl,” an Oprah-celebrated collection of short stories that focuses on online dating. Whether or not the time spent on that is worth any advantage gained is questionable.