Would you be willing to consider listening to this person’s story, so that you might gain a better understanding as to how they ended up as a registered sex offender? When people start to tell you their story it’s kind of like when Alice goes down the rabbit hole — weird, crazy shit will be revealed to you, but it can also be a very enlightening experience if you choose to roll rabbit-hole style. Not all sex offenders are child molesters or guilty of incest. Just as possession of a rock of cocaine is a much different offense than possession of a pound of cocaine, there are differing degrees of what is labelled as a “sexual offense.” But according to our criminal justice system, those differing degrees of sexual offenses don’t seem to matter in the end like they do with almost any other thing you can be convicted of.
Let’s invest some time into thinking further about the question. Do we know the offender’s background and their story? But for some reason they are all lumped together in the same category, branded for life, and I don’t think this is fair.
They had hooked up (had sex), exchanged numbers, and although Alex was disappointed he had relapsed, he was excited about the new woman he had met.
Alex and the woman texted and talked on the phone for about two weeks before Alex’s world came crashing down around his feet.
He was even tossing around the word …But it was all a lie. Alex ended up being convicted of rape despite the fact that the sex had been consensual.
He had to register as a sex offender, and will continue to have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
That is egregiously wrong and unfair to ruin someone’s life because they did a stupid thing like peeing in public.
stuffpoint.com, “Alice Returns.” Sometimes when you meet people, you have a decision to make. Do you let them further into your life, do you go down the rabbit hole with them? However — you can be branded as a sex offender for life for urinating in public.
It’s like Alice right before she goes down the rabbit hole. You can live next to a convicted murderer and never even know it — but the same is not true with a convicted sexual offender, no matter how benign or unjust their conviction may have actually been.
I was not allowed to go visit Alex in the shitty motels because he was not allowed to be alone with a woman in his motel room. We eventually lost touch because it was just too hard for Alex to continue talking to me or to even text me without fear of violating some very strict probation rule. Sometimes the other side of the story is right where it belongs, in prison, branded for life — absolutely, without a doubt, sometimes the other story isn’t validated and never will be.
But sometimes, the other side of the story does have some validation to it.