Would you be willing to consider listening to this person’s story, so that you might gain a better understanding as to how they ended up as a registered sex offender? When people start to tell you their story it’s kind of like when Alice goes down the rabbit hole — weird, crazy shit will be revealed to you, but it can also be a very enlightening experience if you choose to roll rabbit-hole style. Not all sex offenders are child molesters or guilty of incest. Just as possession of a rock of cocaine is a much different offense than possession of a pound of cocaine, there are differing degrees of what is labelled as a “sexual offense.” But according to our criminal justice system, those differing degrees of sexual offenses don’t seem to matter in the end like they do with almost any other thing you can be convicted of.
Let’s invest some time into thinking further about the question. Do we know the offender’s background and their story? But for some reason they are all lumped together in the same category, branded for life, and I don’t think this is fair.
Two weeks into getting to know each other, Jacob sent me an email one night.
He texted me before I opened the email that he was terrified for me to read it.
Jacob ended up serving time in prison for the offense that he committed that night.
He has been a registered sex offender for over twenty years now, and he will be for the rest of his life.
I texted back that it’s okay, whatever it is, I’ll have an open heart and I’ll read it with an open mind.
The email described an event that had happened in Jacob’s life over 20 years ago.
Alex was happy someone had come into his life to make him feel good about himself again.That’s my feeling on that matter, just so we’re clear.Jacob went on in the email to describe that he woke up out of the blackout hours later because he was being beaten and kicked on the ground outside.They had hooked up (had sex), exchanged numbers, and although Alex was disappointed he had relapsed, he was excited about the new woman he had met.Alex and the woman texted and talked on the phone for about two weeks before Alex’s world came crashing down around his feet.